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Reply #15 – August 23, 2005, 12:01:26 PM

Quote from: amooset

I had the whole "I've got a boyfriend" thing happen to me more than once, and right now as well. She's approaching me as though shes single, then reveals the boyfriend fact. Ah, I'll go for it anyway. My ex is now with a prick who did the same thing, maybe I should jump on the opportunity and to hell with the other guy. All's fair in love and war, correct?

this man has the right idea!

if the relationship gets wrecked, its not your fault, its her fault, so theres no worry there, just stay out of sight of the other dude

we're all too young to be missing out on opportunity, in highschool, i missed out on a few of the hottest girls in the school, because i was taken, and was hell bent on staying with this girl, for the relationship to ultimately fail, her to move on to being a slut and a pothead, and me missing out on so many opportunities its not funny

youre single untill you get married, dating or in a relationship doesnt mean your taken, that just means your on a highway, but there are rest stops on exits on that highway...

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Reply #16 – August 23, 2005, 02:58:38 PM

Oh come on Shawn. Doing the right thing and doing what is most fun are not always one in the same. You were right to stay with that girl in high school. What did you miss? Who knows. But you sure did gain a lot of life experience and I bet you are more careful and observant next time so that the same thing does not happen again. If you dump your current girl whenever someone better looking or more interesting comes along then you are no better than the girl that leads a guy on only to tell him later that she is in a relationship with someone else.

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Reply #17 – August 23, 2005, 03:48:59 PM

jkirchmen, while i do somewhat agree with what youre saying, the relationship wasnt worthwhile at all, seeing as her and i have been over for 2 years, and i regret being with her as long as i was, because there was a lot more BS than the relationship is worth

the only thing i learned is that i have amazing willpower *rolls eyes*

at this age, doing what is right doesnt get you anywhere, i did what was right for 18 of my 20 years, and it got me nowhere, and while im still a good guy, and not unfaithful, i still do whats mostly right, and its still not getting me anywhere

thats why i just say live it up, if someone worthwhile comes along, do whats right, but untill then, who cares? the girl im with is not marriage material, nor do i really care about getting married, so f-it, im out to have fun

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Reply #18 – August 23, 2005, 03:53:48 PM

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youre single untill you get married, dating or in a relationship doesnt mean your taken, that just means your on a highway, but there are rest stops on exits on that highway...

And that would be a General Law.....

I have seen many of my friends that had 4 or 5 years with the same relationship and only had 19.....

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One thing I've found out is that the "good friend" thing does NOT work.

And that would be at the constitution....

In some cases, the "good-friend" fact can get effect when you are smart doing your moves, but otherwise is one of the most stupidest things in the planet, for me. The women dont like to date with people that knows her very much. It´s for them like dating with a gynecologist, they dont trust in a man that knows more than them of your v@gina...

(mental image)

The long distance relationships are a total waste of time, many of times without refund. I have been on one and now one hates to other and viceversa. ...

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Reply #19 – August 23, 2005, 04:38:07 PM

Well if doing what is right gets you nowhere then doing what you know not to be right is going to get you nowhere even faster.

I think that short sightedness makes the "do it if it feels good" attitude seem to be the best choice. But long-term you'll be happier with yourself if you don't compromise your integrity and character in the pursuit of short term fun.

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Reply #20 – August 23, 2005, 04:42:59 PM

Thanks for all the input guys, and im the nervous type i start to stutter and shiznit but thanks for all the help.

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Reply #21 – August 23, 2005, 04:43:08 PM

[singing]
Shawn's gon-na be a pla-ya....
Shawn's gon-na be a pla-ya....

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Reply #22 – August 23, 2005, 04:50:20 PM

I'm not trying to jump on the 'pick on shawn' bandwagon, but this quote..

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the girl im with is not marriage material

.. does she know this? I've yet to meet a girl that wouldn't be devastated by that comment. Women are emotional creatures. You've got to respect that, man.

Anyway, I've been where you are. It's called bitter, and it's not going to help you out down the road.

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Reply #23 – August 23, 2005, 04:50:52 PM

Yeah.. Shawn's a man-wh0re.

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Reply #24 – August 23, 2005, 05:44:53 PM

Quote from: oldraven

.. does she know this? I've yet to meet a girl that wouldn't be devastated by that comment. Women are emotional creatures. You've got to respect that, man. :dunno:

yes, she does know this, and she understands, she wasnt happy with it, but she cant do much about it, im not going to lie to her and be like "oh baby, i want to marry you and have a house and a family", to hell with that, im blunt and to the point

Quote from: oldraven

Anyway, I've been where you are. It's called bitter, and it's not going to help you out down the road.

its not called bitter, its called real

how many of you guys right now have kicked yourself in the ass because youve missed out on something? think about it like this

i was in a relationship in highschool, i missed out on quite a bit of good times, not even just shag, but just a lot of fun, for the relationship to ultimately fail in a more painful manner than it could have. so there i was, all hurt and depressed because the relationship ended and hurt bad, AND i was kicking myself in the ass

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Reply #25 – August 23, 2005, 05:53:04 PM

Quote from: Tbird232ci

i was in a relationship in highschool, i missed out on quite a bit of good times, not even just shag, but just a lot of fun, for the relationship to ultimately fail in a more painful manner than it could have. so there i was, all hurt and depressed because the relationship ended and hurt bad, AND i was kicking myself in the ass

That is real life. And identical to what I went through in Highschool. And yes, what you are now is bitter. Do you need a definition?

Experiences like this are supposed to make you stronger, not an ass hole. I guess it did take me a good four or five years to realise that, so you've got some more time ahead of you to blame yourself, or your ex, for having your own life experiences. You've got to curb this attitude eventually though, man. Otherwise, prepare to be a very unhappy old man.

Think about it. You let your past experiences bother and change you so much that you would say something extremelly hurtful to your new girlfriend, who for some stroke of luck didn't walk out your front door on the spot. You haven't learned a thing from it.

This shiznit's too ****ing serious. Believe it or not, I am trying to help you out here.

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Reply #26 – August 23, 2005, 06:07:44 PM

Quote from: oldraven

Experiences like this are supposed to make you stronger, not an ass hole.

ive always been an asshole, anyone thats known me knows im an asshole, im sorry that im able to do the things i want to do rather than go by what i think is "right or wrong", i live it up and have fun, if i find someone i want to settle down with, i will settle down, right now, im in it for fun

Quote from: oldraven

You let your past experiences bother and change you so much that you would say something extremelly hurtful to your new girlfriend, who for some stroke of luck didn't walk out your front door on the spot.

you know why i said it? i put it out there rather early because i dont want her laying in her bed thinking about a wedding, i dont want her having all the thoughts of children, a house, families, and all of that , when i know its not going to happen, should i let her have all of these thoughts, then she thinks we're getting married one day, for me to crush it and break up with her?

im blunt and to the point, i dont play mind games, if i dont like something, i say it, i dont lead people on, im not a tease, i am who i am, and i dont sugar coat a thing when i talk to someone, if they dont like me when im not being fake to their face, they arnt worth my time

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Reply #27 – August 23, 2005, 06:10:48 PM

and you wonder why your married?

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Reply #28 – August 23, 2005, 09:21:35 PM

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dont want her having all the thoughts of children, a house, families, and all of that , when i know its not going to happen

And you think that you telling her you aren't interested is keeping her from having those thoughts? Yeah right. There ain't a woman alive that doesn't think about that stuff regardless of what their boyfriend tells them.

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Reply #29 – August 23, 2005, 10:35:42 PM

Quote from: jkirchman

And you think that you telling her you aren't interested is keeping her from having those thoughts? Yeah right. There ain't a woman alive that doesn't think about that stuff regardless of what their boyfriend tells them.

I believe that. I took a girl to my Junior prom that I hardly knew. When I saw her in history a couple days after the prom, I noticed her and her friend were writing on paper, her first name with my last name. This wasn't out of bordom, they were smiling and glancing over at me. I got turned down when I asked her out.