Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

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Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

July 10, 2014, 10:09:20 PM

Just "celebrated" our 30th on 16 June. Wife asked for a divorce yesterday. Been years in the making. We have a 19 yr old son with a serious drug addiction. Started with weed in HS, then opiates (hydrocodone, oxycontin, etc). and he eventually worked his way to Heroin. He's been in 3 rehab clinics in the last four years. For brevity I'm leaving out his stealing half the stuff out of his mother's jewelry box and some of my tools to fuel his habit. It has taken a huge emotional toll as we help him battle his addiction and our marriage is a casualty. Sobbed like a baby all day yesterday. Feel better today.

Happier times. Picture of the wife and I with our NEW 1988 XR7. (scroll down)

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #1 – July 11, 2014, 08:47:18 AM

Ed, i texted you, call me when you can........ so sorry to hear of the problems with your boy, and the fallout with your wife over it. Keep your chin up....... keep busy, do things that take your mind off the obvious, and lean on friends and family as much as possible. Im in your corner and rooting for you...

Best,

David

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #2 – July 11, 2014, 08:52:58 AM

That's tough to hear, and tougher to go through. Maybe you two can find a way to work it out. I can't say one way or the other. I do know, that sometimes doors close so you are pushed to go through the next door. I divorced years ago, felt horrible, then about three years later, Gayle showed up in my life. I wasn't looking for anybody, it just happened. Hang in there, keep looking forward.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #3 – July 11, 2014, 09:37:51 AM

Sorry to hear that. I have "Been There Done That"... My wife just said out of nowhere 1 day "This isn't working, ...I want a divorce!''..Our daughter was only 15 mos old at the time.. I agree keep busy, and lean on family and friends...Time will heal...Maybe you and her can work things out ....Like Vinnie said, keep looking forward.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #4 – July 11, 2014, 09:36:04 PM

yeah really , this is really hard to hear ,, after so many years. Hope all works out well in the end. Sometimes a separation ends up the makings of best friends again.. who knows.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #5 – July 11, 2014, 09:53:21 PM

Give me a call if you need someone to talk to. Forget keeping busy. What you need to understand now is that you are at the end of a business partnership. Sadly, you have the curse, a pen 15. Lawyer up and protect your investments. She didn't wake up one day and decide the business was over. This has been planned for months if not years. Again give me a call. 484-772-0071 just before 8pm est

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #6 – July 11, 2014, 11:58:30 PM

Sorry to hear the troubles you are going through, keep your head up and looking forward and like jcassity said, it might turn out to something different but you two staying friends. Hope it all works out

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #7 – July 12, 2014, 10:53:57 AM

Woah.....

I can't even wrap my head around this. I can only say that I hope you persevere.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #8 – July 13, 2014, 02:04:38 PM

Sorry to hear, maybe she will just separate and you can work it out. Between the kid and probable menopause its gonna be ruff.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #9 – July 13, 2014, 02:07:38 PM

That's really rough. Best of luck to you brother.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #10 – July 13, 2014, 09:13:29 PM

I"m sorry to hear of this rough turn in your life. I have been through a divorce. My son was only 5 ( he is now 29) and it was a rough time. Believe it or not I am a better person for all I have been through. It helped me to understand people and their actions much better. Time WILL heal the pain. As others have said keep your head up and move forward everyday. One day a door will open without warning (as this has happened) and a new happier chapter will begin in your life. By all means ask for help when you need it.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #11 – July 14, 2014, 08:51:40 AM

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife. I also pray your son somehow can find a way to beat his addiction...maybe seeing his parents split due to his actions will be an eye opener for him.

Wife Asked for Divorce After 30 Years of Marriage

Reply #12 – July 24, 2014, 10:17:47 PM

Kafer, how are you doing? I haven't been on here in a while, read this thread last night. Was thinking about you all day. How are you doing? Ive only been married 9 years, so far so good. But my parents were 25 years before divorce, there both happier now. There is hope after divorce. Pops and Mom are both doing fine. Stay strong man. My dad has a saying, when life gets tough you push on, once in a while look up and make sure you going in the right direction, but push on, don't ever give up. Good Luck man, if you need any advice Ill get you some numbers of guys your age (uncle and pops) that have been down the road your on and made it too the end happily.