I'm out for a while

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I'm out for a while

Reply #15 – October 16, 2011, 10:38:29 AM

Something else you may not realize right now. It took me a while to see it for myself but when I was with that person I was miserable myself. I couldn't see it then because I didn't anything different. But Now that I know what happiness is I know how miserable I was.

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Reply #16 – October 16, 2011, 04:09:02 PM

The wife just left me in may. Still don't know why, and we have two kids together now. Hang in there. You'll find out who your freinds really are pretty quick.

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Reply #17 – October 16, 2011, 09:11:28 PM

I didn't marry the mother of my kids, and personally it was the best choice I could have made. I knew I was miserable, I didn't know the extent. Even with short-lived relationships since then it's still easier emotionally to not have to deal with that. Being a single parent with two kids is hard. I know you'll end up battling with her about the kids. Life isn't ever easy or fair.

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Reply #18 – October 16, 2011, 10:07:23 PM

I am going to try to get my kids. First thing I am going to request is that we go through marriage counsling. I don't think we are that far apart, unless there is something she is hiding from me.

I will not settle for at least joint. Goodluck, if you ever need someone to talk to, let me know.

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Reply #19 – October 16, 2011, 11:10:56 PM

thank you guys, I really appreciate it all. I think there might be some hope but I dont really know... she talks to me calmly like she has never done before and it seems like she wants to work things out but then she says she cant because "she cant let go of the past" its really confusing me and is like riding a roller coaster of emotions.

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Reply #20 – October 17, 2011, 12:08:39 AM

Go through counsling while you are still talking, and give each other spacer. If you cannot trust your spouse with anything, then it will not work. If you can get back to the point of trusting each other, it could go a long way.

I wish I would have signed us up as soon as she left.

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Reply #21 – October 17, 2011, 12:09:30 AM

Also remember, time heals all wounds, reguardless of which way it ends up going.

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Reply #22 – October 17, 2011, 12:49:31 AM

women are an emotional roller coaster, period. i had a constant on-off 4 year relationship with my most recent ex.. all the heartbreak and BS taught me 1 thing, work on cars more often.. lol

seriously though, it's good that the 2 of you are at least communicating.. my buddy josh doesn't communicate with his wife very well and she walks all over him.. communication is just as important as trust in any relationship

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Reply #23 – October 17, 2011, 09:08:57 AM

haystack, are you wanting me to ask her to go to counseling with me?

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Reply #24 – October 17, 2011, 09:18:36 AM

With counseling, who knows what can happen. Sadly, some people do make bad mistakes that they truly do wish to make amends for. Counseling may be able to shed light on issues that need to be addressed and can, at times, make relationships stronger, although there were bad times in the past. It has to be mutual.

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Reply #25 – October 17, 2011, 09:42:01 PM

Yeah, vinnie hit it on the head. The second her freinds and family get involved, they are going to egg on the divorce and tell horror stories and convince her to talk to you as little as possible.

Long story short, if you want to make it work again, go all in and see if it will happen or not.

If its not working, cut your losses and get on with your life. I'm not tryin to be rude, but as soon as courts and family get involved, it will never be the same again.

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Reply #26 – October 17, 2011, 09:51:03 PM

this is exactly what I have come to tonight, she pretty much killed anything I had for her. took her some things and she asked if I wanted to come inside and eat and all was well until she snuck off to the kitchen and call the douche bag. I got up and walked out.

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Reply #27 – October 17, 2011, 10:04:48 PM

Go and find yourself. And you will then find yourself happy and content.

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Reply #28 – October 17, 2011, 10:17:04 PM

Quote from: 88turbo;370397

this is exactly what I have come to tonight, she pretty much killed anything I had for her. took her some things and she asked if I wanted to come inside and eat and all was well until she snuck off to the kitchen and call the douche bag. I got up and walked out.

Sounds as though she may have pretty much made her mind up of what she wants.... Sorry to hear about what you're going through, I can't imagine how tough it must be....Hang in there buddy.

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Reply #29 – October 17, 2011, 10:20:39 PM

Good luck guy. Anything you need let us know.