I'm out for a while

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I'm out for a while

Reply #60 – October 20, 2011, 08:12:55 PM

well since she took 2 of my cell phones I called and had those two turned off. sucks to be her

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Reply #61 – October 20, 2011, 08:30:47 PM

Change the locks to the house asap if she's gone already.

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Reply #62 – October 21, 2011, 03:28:03 AM

who's name is the phone plan on? if it's solely your name, good man.. i'm sure she'll bring it up in court, if you go in front of a judge.. it'll backfire on her HARD if she tries bringing it up.. it's technically theft.. but i definitely agree with vinnie, change the locks or else she'll try getting in the house when you're not home and take whatever she wants to retaliate for the phones

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Reply #63 – October 21, 2011, 12:36:47 PM

Her taking your kids is considered to be kidnapping, without your say. Get a temporary custody done, before she can get a restraining order against you.

Sad thing is, they will believe her over you, until they find out what she is made of. You need to keep thinking everything through before you make a move. And do what's best for the kids, even if she ends up with what that may be. Good luck.

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Reply #64 – October 22, 2011, 12:17:50 AM

well I tried again to see my kids and she refused again saying that if I dont give her the truck I cant see them, so I went to the police station and attempted to talk to them about it and see what I could do and they arrested me for the claims that she made yesterday.... $1500 later I am out and trying to figure out my next move. I havent seen my girls since wednesday :( I dont know when I will get to see them again.

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Reply #65 – October 22, 2011, 12:30:34 AM

That sucks! I'm sorry she's acting like she is. I think your best bet at this time is to get an attorney. Tell him everything that's happened. You might even be able to file suit against her for false accuations which led to your arrest. It may be expencive but I really think it would be in your best interrest.

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Reply #66 – October 22, 2011, 02:51:22 AM

Sue the police department. I can't belive they would do that. They are your kids too and she has no right to them that you don't. Sorry.

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Reply #67 – October 22, 2011, 05:33:10 AM

That sounds like our wonderful justice system for ya, I really hope things work out for the better

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Reply #68 – October 22, 2011, 07:13:15 AM

I can't tell you what to do. I myself would get a lawyer, like yesterday and get the ball moving.

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Reply #69 – October 22, 2011, 10:51:16 AM

I feel your pain. you do need a good lawyer though. my ex and i split up almost 3 yrs ago and now finally i'm starting to become happy again. she tried all that $h!t with me and now i have what fl calls residential custody, which is almost unheard of here. they get caught in their lies and justice does prevail. I PROMISE!!!

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Reply #70 – October 22, 2011, 07:27:50 PM

My mom was nuts, did the same thing to my dad. There was 6 kids under 18 and my dad got all of us, but it took about 3 years. Get a lawyer. Were not going to help much.

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Reply #71 – October 25, 2011, 04:46:45 PM

Hold strong buddy. I can't say I know what you're going through but I can say from experience that women have the potential to be truly evil at times. Good luck, I really hope it doesn't get any worse.

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Reply #72 – October 25, 2011, 09:00:28 PM

I haven't posted much here for a couple of years since I retired my Cat, but so far everybody is correct. I've seen this happen to a few of my friends over the years and here's my advice: Change all the locks, lock the windows, lawyer up first thing tomorrow morning and don't give any more info out here. Sounds hard, but if the soon to be ex finds this thread, she will find a way to twist it around to use against you. Also document EVERYTHING, no matter how trivial. It sounds like she's gonna try to rake you over the coals to get anything she wants.

She has made it plain that she's gonna play hardball, so mentally prepare yourself for a war, 'cause that what she's gonna do. Once you have a GOOD divorce lawyer, call her or have your lawyer call her and tell her that ANY AND ALL correspondence between the two of you MUST go through your lawyer, then DON'T speak to her, don't answer her calls or e-mails, forward everything to your lawyer. She may even try to play nice and offer to settle out of court, DON'T FALL FOR THIS! Believe me, I've seen it happen too many times and seen my friends lose EVERYTHING because they thought she had a change of heart.

She made her choice, now its time for you to do the same. You seem to realize that the relationship is over, and that's a good thing. No matter what you are going through inside, appear firm and inflexible to her. Give her nothing! To quote an old negotiation saying: "what's mine is mine, what's yours is negotiable". Give out NO information and do nothing to or for her unless ordered to by the courts. Never forget, she's made this into a war and unless you want to lose everything including your kids, you had better do the same.

Now, (as I take off my Mr.hard-ass jacket) I feel for ya. I've been married 29 years (yes to the same woman :)), but as I've said before I have had many friends go through the same thing over the years. It's rough, but you've been given some good advice as far a s keeping yourself and your mind busy. I hope things work out for the best as far as you are concerned.

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Reply #73 – November 01, 2011, 08:11:44 PM

Quote from: 88turbo;370674

Also I have been working on becoming closer to the lord and making peace with him :)

if that is the result of your situation, it will be worth it in the end. He is good.