Facebook etiquette. Reply #15 – September 30, 2010, 11:44:16 AM I had the exact same thing happen. I made the wrong decision and went with choice #3, which ended up being very wierd and awkward. She would post things on my page, send me PM's, etc. Nothing she did crossed the line, but I just didn't feel right about it so I un-friended her. After that she kept sending me requests to be her friend again.I just kept ignoring it and she eventually gave up. lol. I was thinking: "I'm sorry but I dumped your ass for cheating and hoped I'd never have to deal with you again...never would have guessed something like Facebook would come along and force me to deal with your crazyness." Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #16 – September 30, 2010, 11:53:29 AM -ive accepted a couple that i used to date. i personally have had no problems. sometimes we message each other on things, and talk about the"old days", but for the most part, its been on the level, and nice to hear from them....but you have to keep it on "the level"... Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #17 – September 30, 2010, 01:30:37 PM Consider if the tables were turned............an ex from your wife's past attempting to contact her. If this gives you even the slightest tinge...then you have your answer: IGNORE. Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #18 – September 30, 2010, 02:18:01 PM Quote from: hwy73;337297Consider if the tables were turned............an ex from your wife's past attempting to contact her. If this gives you even the slightest tinge...then you have your answer: IGNORE.x2, reverse the role in your mind, what would YOU do? Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #19 – September 30, 2010, 02:22:18 PM I vote for Accept.. I pretty much got all my exes on my Facebook. For several reasons:1) if you live well they can see what they coulda had2) see how their life is turning out to assure yourself that it wouldn't have worked anyway3) you shared a part of your life, there's no reason to really ignore a part of your life because things didn't go well.. it's a learning experience.I catch up with them even in conversations from time to time. there's nothing wrong with a little curiousity. like I said, there has been time out of both parties lives where it was spent mutually together. Time heals all wounds. Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #20 – September 30, 2010, 02:26:04 PM Quote from: baxo;337305Time heals all wounds.not true.. some things are life altering.. and i'm not talking physical wounds either Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #21 – September 30, 2010, 02:56:08 PM Quote from: turbo_88_XR7;337308not true.. some things are life altering.. and i'm not talking physical wounds eitherI guess not for everyone. but speaking for myself, relationship wise it does. I've had some pretty F'ed up life altering stuff happen in relationships that I've gotten over. Life's too short for grudges. Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #22 – September 30, 2010, 03:14:07 PM Quote from: baxo;337305I vote for Accept.. I pretty much got all my exes on my Facebook. For several reasons:1) if you live well they can see what they coulda had2) see how their life is turning out to assure yourself that it wouldn't have worked anyway3) you shared a part of your life, there's no reason to really ignore a part of your life because things didn't go well.. it's a learning experience.I catch up with them even in conversations from time to time. there's nothing wrong with a little curiousity. like I said, there has been time out of both parties lives where it was spent mutually together. Time heals all wounds.:bowdown: Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #23 – September 30, 2010, 03:35:27 PM If your marriage is solid,why not. The stalking part is strange though, does she live in the same town? Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #24 – September 30, 2010, 03:45:24 PM Quote from: Kitz Kat;337322If your marriage is solid,why not. The stalking part is strange though, does she live in the same town?She lives in the town of Niagara Falls, ,where i used to live. I now live on Grand Island which is the next town over, and the only way to get here is on the thruway, and pay a dollar to get on the island. Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #25 – September 30, 2010, 04:08:08 PM Quote from: baxo;337305I vote for Accept.. I pretty much got all my exes on my Facebook. For several reasons:1) if you live well they can see what they coulda had2) see how their life is turning out to assure yourself that it wouldn't have worked anyway3) you shared a part of your life, there's no reason to really ignore a part of your life because things didn't go well.. it's a learning experience.I catch up with them even in conversations from time to time. there's nothing wrong with a little curiousity. like I said, there has been time out of both parties lives where it was spent mutually together. Time heals all wounds.You do have a few good pointsI couldn't see myself with her in the future back then...... I'm sure she figured it was her only shot of having a somewhat easy life. I've come a long way since then. Have my own company.. make decent money. own 5 cars. have a huge house, No mortgage, in-ground pool, almost no debt.....I know I would not have everything I now have if we stayed together. I think she probably is curious how things turned out for me. I pretty much fell off the map on purpose when I met my wife. It has been 17 years after all, and I'm guessing she isn't stalking me anymore, and hasn't even tried to send me a message. only a friend request, and a post on my building page about wanting work done in her house. I replied with a "depends on the job" answer, and also stated that I only work in high end housing.... which I do, because people normally can't afford custom woodwork and cabinets.From what I see on her page, she is happily married and has 2 kids. She also can't see anything on my personal page, because I have everything set to friend only.And Alex, I need a set of those Star Trek doors... lol Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #26 – September 30, 2010, 04:44:49 PM hahaha i'm definitely doing the star trek doors, i just need to get my hands on some hydraulics! Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #27 – September 30, 2010, 04:45:58 PM like convertible top lifts? Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #28 – September 30, 2010, 04:54:26 PM LOL you read my mind! my convertible will be a roadster when I'm done anyway. it's not like it'll need it. I'll probably need pneumatic though, air is faster than oil. Quote Selected
Facebook etiquette. Reply #29 – October 01, 2010, 12:01:51 AM From what I'm reading, I get this bad feeling that I'm gonna see your story on "Forensics Files" someday -------- or "Cold Case Files" in 20 years. Quote Selected