Hey guys I just wanted to get your opinion on something that just happened to me. Now just so you know I'm 20 so mabey this is nothing new but here goes.
I was at a work related party on Sunday (ie only people who work for my employer were at this get together) and I met a girl. Well we hit it off and we talked and when it came time for the party to end I asked if she wouldn't mind if we exchanged email addresses just to ya know stay in touch. She said yeah and suggested that we also exchange phone numbers. She also said to give her a call this week so we could do something. I was like ok. So I called her today and asked if she wanted to do something later this week and she said yeah that she a her BOYFRIEND would like to do something. I was like "wait you didn't tell me you had a boyfriend". She said "yeah we've been dating for 3 years but I just thought it would be cool to hang out with you" and I said "well why don't we keep in touch by email for now and mabey in a few weeks when I have some time we can hang out". She said "ok sounds like a plan and I'll keep in touch by email".
Mabey I just think backwards but usually when a girl gives you her phone number without you asking for it then that usually means that
1. She is interested in you and
2. She is single.
It's not like I'm a noob when it comes to dating. I've had a few long (ie 8 months to a year) realtionships and I've never had this experiance before. I just wanted to malke sure that I'm not :crazy: and that as I have thought before women don't think like men do. I'de never do that to a girl but apparentally they think that there is nothing wrong with leading a guy on. Oh well I'm just a little puzzled so if any of you wiser :bowdown: guys have had this happen to you I'de appriciate the stories. I guess someone gets each of us once in a while.
sums it all up.
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Please reference this post. :)
http://www.foxtbirdcougarforums.com/showpost.php?p=38677&postcount=7
Oh goodie I'm screwed forever! I hoped it would get easier to figure women out as I got older but I guess I'll never know what they are thinking. I guess I'll feel like this :crazy: for the rest of my life if I ever try to figure out women.
:rollin:ain't it the truth!
women, they don't use the same logic we do. you can never assume. I am married, and I always try to get my wife to say what she means in language that can't be argued, but i never can.. just have to do the best you can when i comes to women.
some women play the lets get real friendly game, then later say about their b/f....they are one category of women you will soon be able to spot and avoid.......most times they are either trying to make a b/f jealous or keeping something in reserve 'cuz their relationship is rocky.......basically their manipulative c$nts
I had an interesting experience myself. This girl was working at my moms work and I would see her from time to time. She drove a camaro when I first met her but interestingly enough bought a cougar soon after. We would talk and got along very well. As a matter of fact, I even helped her out on some problems she had with her car. It seemed that she liked me and I have to admit that I really liked her. The only problem was that at this time she had a boyfriend.
Months later, my mom's coworkers were talking with her and after she got out of her relationship and suggested her to talk to me. After talking to my moms coworkers myself, I learned that she did like me and as a matter of fact she handed her phone number over to my mom one day. So I called her and we talked for a little while. When I called her again we tried to set something up to go out. The only problem was that she was in the middle of finals for school and I was in finals as well as working until 8 p.m. Well for another attempt, I called her again. This time though she sounded different. When I saw my mom the next day she said that the girl was at a mall, met someone and all of the sudden wasn't interested. Apparently she met him when I was talking to her the night before.
Sadly this was not the only failed attempt. There have been several others all ending in the same fashion. . . me being alone trying to figure out why.
So there's my sob story as I continue the search for a good girl of my own.
I've always been told I'm a nice guy and as the old saying goes. nice guys finsh last.
If you really wanna try and figure out women....
yes
and they become even more chemically inbalanced after childbirth.
Yeah women suck. I can't even remember how many times I've talked to a girl for awhile and really started to get interested in her when she suddenly reveals she has a boyfriend. In fact every one I talk to seems to be taken.
The worst one was a couple years ago, I was taking a summer physics class at school and this hot little thing was in there. We ended up pairing up for one of the first labs and got to talking, and she was brushing against me and everything, and we talked pretty much every day. Just when I'm thinking I should make a move she starts talking about going on some trip with her boyfriend. I was just thinking, god dammit... :disappoin
i get the same thing all the time, ive stopped caring, im in a relationship, and i dont even know whats going on with it, and i dont even care
dont sweat it, dont need a female to be happy
Well actually this wasn't the first time that I've been screwed over by a girl. It seems like every time I'm interested in sombody they have a boyfriend or they don't tell me they have a boyfriend untill i've wasted alot of time talking to them and trying to get to know them. But god forbid that a guy screws with a girls head. I'll have to admit that I've given a girl a wrong phone number a couple of times or just not called a girl when she gives me her phone number and I'll get hell from my friends who are girls for doing it. I just tell them it's my little way of evening things out for all the times girls mess with guys heads :evilgrin: . I haven't dated in a year because of a bad break up and this was my first real atempt at starting a new relationship. Oh well I've got more time to screw up after all I'm only 20. Atleast I haven resorted to going after 15-16 year olds like my (20 year old) friend :barf: who impresses them by saying he is in college. I've really got to put a stop to him doing that before he winds up in jail!
thats why i dont really sweat girls man
as my friend says "when a girl says 'dont want to give you head', it really means 'i dont want to date you"
dont look for a relationship, just chill, i keep randomly ending up in them
whats wrong with 15-16 year olds? im dating one right now :p
In Illinois if he is caught doing anything "questionable" with a minor he goes to jail. Which can't be good cause he is a skinny guy and well lets just say he would get taken advantage of. I'm not really looking I just met somebody I really liked for the first time in awhile and it went to hell. Eh if I find something great if not oh well. I guess I've got more important things to be worried about.
Some people men and women both are just manipulative a$$holes but most are nice just gotta keep trying and keep your guard up. I never thought I'd be back in dating but my fiance (ten year relationship) died. So I was back at it fortunatly knowing more about people and being wiser with age. The same games still go on though. Anyway after weeding through the loosers I met someone nice who I like, and made a few friends along the way
A wise man once said to me "If it got t!ts or tires, it's gonna give ya trouble" 'nough said.
Yes, women are nuts. You can't ever figure them out simply because there is way too much mindless stuff going on in their heads.
Men cannot perceive how women can be so complex and women simply can't comprehend how men can be so simple. That pretty much sums up what I think.
Too immature, not to mention the legal ramifications in my case :giggle:
I preffer to think of ourselves as more efficient at problem solving, not simple. :D Women come up with problems, buttstuffyze them to death, and when they ask us what we think, instead of doing the same, we simply come up with a solution. It drives them nuts, too. They'd rather talk about the problem than solve it. :giggle:
This is in my 26 years of experience, at any rate.
women think with emotions, men think with logic
this is easily seen when your girlfriend tells you about her problem "jenny was talking behing my back, i found out because jessica came and told me, but tanya said jessica was trying to start a fight, but i dont know what to do, i dont want to lose any friends", and we just say "go ask jenny" or "dont talk to them"
Men are definately problem solvers. I realized this in my last relationship. She told me about a problem she was having and I offered some solutions and she flipped out at me for reasons unknown to me. Basically it went something like this:
Her: Blah, blah blah blah....
Me: What do you want me to do?
Her: I don't want you do anything!
Me: Then why did you bother telling me?
*smack*
Yeah, for some reason women just talk about stuff instead of fixing stuff. I'll never understand that.
Gee. Just when I had gotten used to it......
Any married (or seriously dating) man should forget his mistakes.
There is no use in two people remembering the same thing.
:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: Ain't that the truth!
just remember they all look the same if you flip them upside down
but all jokes aside yes women are nuts just go ask me ex-wife who after a year of divorce says we should get back together all i got to say is YIKES!!!!
My current relationship with my girlfriend is at the one-year mark, although we've been on and off for the past three. She has now been bringing up the subject of, gasp, marriage. Of course, she's placing a lot of emphasis on the fact that we won't be doing it in the very near future (we're both still in college, I will be graduating next year), but I know her well enough to see that if I said let's do it next month she'd say hell yeah. I also know that if I had said that I don't really plan to get married until I'm 30 or something like that I'd have probably been dumped. I blame this on the mommies, and on the hollywood movies and on society and on everybody. I hate being pressured into something, this especially.
Holy ...you are the MAN!! :bowdown:
There have never been truer words. From the time girls are born it seems like the wedding thing is just drilled into their heads. Oops, I'm sorry, not 'the wedding'...'THEIR wedding'. The man has nothing to do with it, except to just show up, apparently.
Back in the mid-1990's I had dated a girl for a few years; things were going well enough, although I was never comfortable around her stump-jumper family. There started to be this overwhelming pressure from all sides to buy "the ring". So like a dumbass, I did. We set a date roughly 2 years in advance. At the time neither of us were making much money; she could never help us come to a decision on where we'd live, what we'd be doing for a living, etc. She couldn't even figure out where she wanted the wedding (believe it or not). But she did want to trade her car in for a Mustang, to live near her folks, to have a nice home with a white picket fence, to name her first daugher Victoria, etc. Funny, she could figure that much out. Well, long story short, we mutually split a year before the supposed event. She meets some doofus half a year later; within a year after that they're married. And guess what? She gets her Mustang, she gets a house by her parents (complete with said white picket fence), and then they have a daughter that
she named Victoria.
In other words, it didn't really matter which warm male body was there to give her a ring...she was going to do all that stuff anyway, thanks to 20+ years of brainwashing. Thank you, society.
BIG lesson learned. My outlook completely upon relationships has completely changed. Are my standards too high now? skippy, they are. However, I'm perfectly fine with the notion that I may be single the rest of my life so whatever. I find much more inherent value in the car. It costs less, and if it me off, I just close the garage door and walk into the house without getting any lip. :D
Preach on brother Eric!
Yeah, I can totally relate to the "warm male body" thing, when I got cheated on and I asked the simple questions "why ?" and "why him ?" all I got was, and hold on to your pants, this one's a kicker, "He reminded me of you". The admission that she just needed _someone_ to hold her while I was not there (out of the country) finally came, and all I could say was, , if that's the best you could do, then what the HELL am I still doing talking to you ?
So, yes, females are nuts, they will succumb to their feelings/hormones/tiny brains even faster than we will begin listening to our, well, family forum, Johnsons shall I say.
females need expiration dates
every girl ive dated, the relationship is great for a year or so, things seem perfect, and then it just goes to shiznit, get the nagging, the fighting, the arguing, and all the BS you put up with when youre married
when that begins, i end the relationship
Well Mine Just Keep's Repeating The Who Story Over And Over Or It Take's Thirty Min To Get To The Part That She Could Have Said In One Breath......
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Nail on the head there, too. Wait until you've known her for years, then get married, or better off, don't get married at all.
If it wasn't for the whole biological need to mate ;) and the primal urge to pursue that need, The world could quite possibly be better without females.
:giggle:
that's almost poetry
But just think of the BS
they have to put up with. Remember, all men are ass holes, right. At least once in a while. ;)
If my wife and I weren't married we probably would have broken up about 10 times in the last two years. Being married, at least for me, makes me want to salvage the relationship and try to look at things from her point of view. It's difficult, especially with her being from a completely different cultural environment than me, but it helps us come to an understanding with each other. She has to do the same thing.
Having the bond of marriage really makes me want to make things work and try hard to compromise and figure out the best way to handle each new situation. I'm still getting used to the whole thing but then again so is she. Being married is, hands down, the most difficult thing I have ever undertaken in my entire life. But it's also the most rewarding. It certainly takes a real man to be married.
Wow this thread just keeps getting bigger! Women think that men are always assholes when we don't do what they want. When the girl I work with asked me if the new jeans she bought looked good I told her the truth, I thought they looked horrible. Then I'm the asshole for telling the truth :confused:. Or if a girl wants us to go shoping for jeans with them and we don't want to go we're so mean and incosiderate to their feelings and needs. I've told girls I've gone out with "I'll go jean shoping with you when you go to the wreaking yard with me and help me find a car part I need for the Bird". Their response is usually "that place is icky I'm not going" then I say "we'll then I not going shoping with you" which usually them off :D .
God and don't get me started on girls emotinal problems. I dated a girl that had to be told every day why we we're going out and why I loved her blah blah blah. After a year of that I dumped her. Then she proceeded to stalk me at work for 2 months (I couln't make her leave because I work in a public place a public library :) ) which was great fun. Now she's going out with my friend and has been for a year (poor ) and she's pullin the same . But he puts up with it! I have a friend who's a girl who complains about her boyfriend all the time but says that she loves him. It's her first real boyfriend so she won't leave him for anything. Both of these girls think they're going to marry the guys they are with right now but that probibly isn't going to happen. I'm only 20 but I realize that at this point in my life things are going to change drastically after I finish colege and their's no guarentee that I'll even like or hang out with the friends I have now. But again girls don't get this and they think once the go out with a guy that their soul mates forever :bs:.
But men know better. We know we're ass holes even when it has nothing to do with what they want. :) It's the nature of man to be a jerk.
I don't mean to break up this little woman hating siesta. (I've been a WH since the age of 17, but I can't help but love 'em) It's healthier to bitch about them here than at home. ;) Just trying to point out that it's very much a two sided coin, and I bet there's even more crud on our side.
Possibly, but I like to believe that woman :ies: look a heck of a lot better than man :ies:. Don't think i'd make it in the world without women to look at and oggle.
Yes, but that goes along with being attracted to them which is entirely biological.
You shouldn't quote me out of context, people will think I'm gay, and I have a reputation to uphold :giggle: .