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Title: hey everyone
Post by: Beau on June 23, 2012, 08:59:49 AM
Not that it really matters, but going away for awhile. Got some issues on the homefront that need dealt with, and I need to face 'em and make things whole with my sanity and heart.

The Bird ain't going anywhere but down the road legally hopefully VERY soon...about ready to make it an "at any cost" thing.

I will be back, smarter, better, and happier. Be safe y'all. :bowdown:
Title: hey everyone
Post by: vinnietbird on June 23, 2012, 09:05:15 AM
Beau, get yourself right and happy. If you need me, PM me, Facebook me. Sometimes, in whatever one is going through, it's good to have somebody there. Make good decisions, family first, do the right thing.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: vinnietbird on June 23, 2012, 09:06:50 AM
...........and send me the Mark VIII injectors before you take a break!!!! You'll feel better if you do.
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Post by: 88turbo on June 23, 2012, 09:11:29 AM
I'm with Vinnie, sometimes a break is good.  I'm Berenice you need me and you know how to get hold of me. Sent your part yesterday.  Take care my friend
Title: hey everyone
Post by: Beau on June 23, 2012, 07:01:18 PM
Monday, the injectors will go out, and G money, your upper will be on the way to you as well.

No need to pay me for the injectors Vinnie....just keep an eye open for some small stuff..think of the injectors as a down payment or something lol...I paid 3 bucks for the set of 'em. :)

Speaking of downer stuff while I'm here...went to do a tranny fluid flush on the blue truck, and the first pan bolt I took out snapped off. I managed to get the second bolt out intact, and feeling pen 15y, snapped off the third. A few serious cuss words and a block of wood tossed in the far corner of my shed and I called it a day. I am SO ready to be back in a Ford....this polishing a turd business (struggles with the gm stuff) has gotten me pretty stressed out....and I very rarely stress over things.

As far as the broken trans pan bolts...I'd get some easy out bits or even left handed drill bits and do the job, but it's the only licensed, running vehicle, and while that's not saying much, it has to get us through for now. What to do...what to do.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: vinnietbird on June 23, 2012, 10:32:23 PM
Thanks Beau. You know I'll do all I can for you. You also know where to find me if you need to talk, or whatever else.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: beast50 on June 24, 2012, 04:27:23 AM
Peace be with you brother and hurry back.

If you need help with anything I am here in central Illinois and Missouri is a nice roadtrip

Tim
Title: hey everyone
Post by: HAVI on June 24, 2012, 09:24:55 AM
I'm right there with ya!  Good luck!!

Kinda doing a similar thing, at least getting the cart BEHIND the horse for once.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: 1Bad88tbird on June 24, 2012, 10:31:27 AM
Good luck Beau, I hope it all works out for you. At least you know you have alot of friends here if you need to vent or anything. We go a nice support group here.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: Beau on June 25, 2012, 01:38:37 AM
Thanks guys. I love this place.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: 88turbo on June 25, 2012, 09:55:38 AM
This place loves you too ;-) some more than others! Haha!
Title: hey everyone
Post by: Beau on June 25, 2012, 03:03:41 PM
lmao!

Got a question...

Has anyone here ever dealt with someone who is depressed, or been through it?

I tried reaching out to my dad over the weekend (should've known better..we've never gotten along very well) to talk to him, to tell him what I think is wrong with things..he laughed, told me to get a second job, and I wouldn't have the time to whine about shiznit. (his exact words)

Today I was playing with my little girl and her little train set....and the thought came to me..how could someone not ever hear what their kid is saying when something isn't right?

It gave me some resolve to be better than what I've known.
Today is a better day.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: Haystack on June 25, 2012, 04:48:10 PM
Some people deal with things differently.

When I was a catv lineman, I worked a lot. Like an 80 week was an easy week and I didn't know what to do with myself when I wasn't at work. We usually go slow around december, work started back up in january, and full tilt until december again.

While I had a couple slow weeks (40-60) around the holidays, I started spending a lot of time with my newborn. It was like someone flipped a light switch, I had never realized all I was missing out on. I spent much more time with my family and freinds, and I realized I was depressed. As a foreman, I set my own hours, and I intended to work alone as much as possible. Because of how much I worked, no one would work on my team, and I ended up running a one man show. To keep up pace with everyone else, I compensated by working a ton of hours, because even the easiest job took twice as long.

I never realized it at the time, but I was depressed, and didn't want to spend any time with anyone else. I prided myself in going days straight without sleep and out pacing everyone around me without help. I basically created my own enviorment that I had complete control over, where I was the boss.

After spending some real time with my newborn, monney no longer mattered, and I realized I was needed at home too. I went from pulling $10,000+ production numbers a week by myself, to only the normal $2-4,000 everyone else was. For the first time in quite a while, I was happy. When my job and home life started conflicting, I quit my job, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Although I went from $6-8000 take home a month to delivering pizza for minimum wage, I couldn't be happier. I remember my kid taking his first steps, and being there whenever I could.

Unfortanately, my wife was after me for money. As soon as I quit making a lot , she took off. I found she has over $20k in credit cards and loans I didn't know about. When money dried up, it was too big of a deal for her to get over. I am doing my best to not let myself fall back into a funk and doing the same thing again. I love my kids, but when I was working hard, I wasn't seeing them.

Looking back, its what keeps me going. I never did a single thing to make my wife leave, and I wouldn't take back my decision if my life depended on it. I was just there physically, but not mentally. I didn't want to live my life anymore, and took the easy way out. But I know she was the reason she left. If all she wanted was money, then good riddens.

Its not the situation your going through that defines the person you are, its how you handle it. If you can look back and say you did your best with the situation at hand, then you have no reason to blame yourself. I try to live my life with no regrets, and so far I have.

Only you know what to do with your situation.

Sorry for the life story, but I feel it somewhat relates.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: mcb82gt on June 25, 2012, 06:16:24 PM
Hang in there with everything.  I know we suck, but were all here for you if you need anything.
Title: hey everyone
Post by: vinnietbird on June 25, 2012, 06:46:22 PM
I agree, Hang in there. mcb82gt is right, they DO suck. LOL.
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Post by: HAVI on June 25, 2012, 10:34:37 PM
I assume your dad watched a lot of John Wayne movies back in the day, mine too.  No emotions ever shown.  Generational differences, I guess.  I suffer from it from time to time, it's like a lightswitch being flicked, no control of over it, know it's happening, but nothing can be done, but run its course.  My FB profile has shown it a couple times, and even deleted my first one cuz of it.  I've learned to recognize it, and that's the first step, but still learning the ways to minimize it.  Truly believe it's a chemical imbalance type thing, it certainly isn't something I seek out to do.  My job is stressful enough as it is, and sometimes the simplest things get me worked up, and the same things a couple weeks later won't phase me one bit.  Strange, I know.  Just need to keep the horse before the cart.