Interest in my birds. :( I dont know if its just the situation I'm in or what it is but I really dont know if I want to go on with the turbo coupes.
it's probably just the situation.. something like that can really push you away from the things you enjoy doing most. i'm sure you'll come back around and regain your interest once your heart has healed a little
It's just the situation making you feel that way. Went through that myself, I know with the kids it makes it worse, but it will get better.
I go through spells where I'm not interested in my car and let it set for awhile. Its natural to get bored of something but I've had my car too long to ever let it go. I know that it can set under a the car cover and wait patiently for awhile if life gets in the way of the car hobby.
Happens sometimes~Especially depending on depression and such. Just take a lil' break.
I dunno, I rather think I'd be looking for a distraction in times like this, and turning wrenches on a pproject could provide just such a distraction. Matter of fact I'd be buying things I knew would have made her mad (in this case of my ex, this means "anything"). We all deal differently, though...
I agree with the the other guys. The situation you're in is to blame. Just hang in there, it defenately gets better. When I went through it, besides my family and friends, I knew I had my T-Bird and it wasn't going anywhere.
It's the situation. When everything around you seems to bring you down, the cars will end up being a part of that. Just keep them, and you'll get your mojo back. It takes time. Don't rush things.
Remember, don't make any decisions when it comes to getting rid of things you have always had a passion for. If you start having those thoughts, that should be a giant red flag for you that means you're making (or about to make) poor decisions. Most people don't lose interest for something they love in a few days. It's other things weighing on you. Like being sick with the flu and not even wanting to eat your absolute favorite food. It's not that you lost the taste for it, you have something getting in the way of what you like. Fix what is getting in the way, and the rest will take care of itself.
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Tom, first of all Thanks. :) my name is Graham. all of this wouldnt be so hard if there were no kids involved. but I love my daughters more than anything in this world. I really appreciate the prayers and kind words
Graham
Have you spoken to a lawyer yet? If so, what did they say? If not, then why haven't you?
force my friend ... Patience is a virtue ... do not be discouraged!
havent heard from the lawyer yet, called legal aide and they were supposed to get back with me. things are kind of looking up for us so I want to wait and see what happens first before I slap her with a court date.
Do you mean a reconciliation? If so, I wish you two the best and hope that things get straightened out (counselor would be a good idea). Whatever direction it's going, if it makes you happier, then I wish you the best of everything.
did not happen.talking to her is like trying to talk to a recording on repeat. she hears nothing but tells only what she wants to tell.
Talk to the courts first, at least you can get a temporary order set so you can see your kids. My experiance has been, if you don't she will. Document everytime she has refused to let you see them, and go from there. Its a hard road, and keep your head up.
Sorry, I can't really tell you what to do, but I would get the ball rolling.
it's always worse when kids are involved.. i can't speak from experience but i have friends with kids that have gone through simular situations.. i would definitely contact the court to set up a temporary custody hearing.. if you're the primary bread winner of the household, there's a possibility (just don't hold me to it) that you will get full temporary costudy, since you're still in the 'home.' it will also look good on your end if you file asap, it'll show the court you're a loving/caring father to your girls
Yes, get the legal folks involved last week. If they don't return calls, call them back. make it happen before you end up in a bad way.
Don't lose your temper, rise above anything she does. Be as straight as you can be, stay away from ANYTHING and ANYONE questionable. There are eyes everywhere no matter what people think. Make every move as though someone is watching. Tomorrow, pick up the phone and get legal people in it and protect yourself and kids.
it wouldn't hurt to invest in a punching bag to take your emotions out on.. i'm not into health/fitness, but throwing some punches into a punching bag will relieve a lot of stress.. i'd say go to a shooting range, but that may find it's way to the judges ear and make it look like you're about to go postal
well things took a turn... she came to get some things and some "other things" happened :D
soooo.. this meeeaaaaannnnnnsssss? lol
Good luck, but don't put yourself in the situation you get burned again. I wish you the best.
I think "That" is common in these situations, but physical "emotions" still don't fix the other things that are going on. I also wish you luck, and hope you're not setting yourself up for a big fall. You said yourself that you two can't even talk without it becoming a mess. I'm afraid you'll fall right back into the same old stuff. Either way, good luck with this in whatever direction it goes.
Always remember.....The simplest term for insanity.....Is repeating one self and expecting a different results.
In order for any good to come from this situation....you have to forgive her. If not it will damage and pollute everything else....it will just take time.
Good luck,
Travis
Also remember that anything you post, both here and on Facebook, is there for her (or her lawyer) to see. Hurt though you may be, if you want any shot at reconciliation don't say things that you'll be begging her forgiveness for...
I'd avoid any contact with her unless it directly pertains the girls....don't keep putting your heart out there to get trampled on. I know it's so hard not to, but don't become her doormat just because she crooks her finger. Of course, I'm totally unforgiving in such an instance, kids or not.
I've kinda stayed neutral in it, and I'm not biased to either of you....it's just one of those things where you have to pick your way thru it and realize that no matter what she does, those little girls are YOURS too.
Let her go if she really wants, if she gets in a bad way, it's on her.
Meanwhile, your life is empty and your wasting time....the love of your life is out there somewhere...go get her! :)
"My dad always told me, before he left this shiznitty world, there's 2 things you shouldn't chase. Buses and women. You'll always get left behind."