General => Lounge => Topic started by: lostbrew on January 20, 2005, 09:35:12 PM
Title: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 20, 2005, 09:35:12 PM
i would like words of advice because i am overly stressed out and i know it but what puts it over the edge is when the boyfriend can't see you for the weekend like you have been doing for the past month, and you don't see him during the week. all you can do is talk to him online and when you do he doesn't say much and that frustrates me because it makes me feel left out and not wanted. And with a little brother who bugs the hell out of me i use getting away with him as a relaction time. but now more added stress is that my little sister is home for the weekend and add on my little brother and not seeing him for over a week. i want to cry because i am so frustrated and have no idea what to do. some one help me
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Thunder Chicken on January 20, 2005, 10:35:52 PM
Lostbrew, some words of advice:
1) Guys are not talkative by nature. I do not know any guy who likes to talk on the phone, instant message, or whatever. This is not an indication that your guy does not care about you, it is an indication of the very tiny attention span that comes from being a male. Your guy is very likely surfing a dozen different websites while chatting with you.
2) Brothers and sisters are not allowed to get along. By law. They tolerate each other, borrow money from each other, do each other favours, and all that, but only because their parents make them like each other. The younger they are, the more this holds true. My sister and I are both in our thirties, and on the surface we get along, but underneath we both carry a deep grudge against each other that is programmed into siblings. Don't let it bother you.
I don't know, maybe it is just my nature (or the aforementioned short attention span), but I refuse to let anything bother me. The sun will still set at the end of the day, and the following morning it will rise again, sure as there's shiznit in a cat. If you find yourself buckling under stress, do something you enjoy. Go see a movie with the girls. Do a burnout in front of a bunch of ricers. Gap your spark plugs. Anything that keeps you occupied will keep your mind off your problems.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 20, 2005, 11:07:34 PM
Quote from: Thunder Chicken
Lostbrew, some words of advice:
1) Guys are not talkative by nature. I do not know any guy who likes to talk on the phone, instant message, or whatever. This is not an indication that your guy does not care about you, it is an indication of the very tiny attention span that comes from being a male. Your guy is very likely surfing a dozen different websites while chatting with you.
2) Brothers and sisters are not allowed to get along. By law. They tolerate each other, borrow money from each other, do each other favours, and all that, but only because their parents make them like each other. The younger they are, the more this holds true. My sister and I are both in our thirties, and on the surface we get along, but underneath we both carry a deep grudge against each other that is programmed into siblings. Don't let it bother you.
I don't know, maybe it is just my nature (or the aforementioned short attention span), but I refuse to let anything bother me. The sun will still set at the end of the day, and the following morning it will rise again, sure as there's shiznit in a cat. If you find yourself buckling under stress, do something you enjoy. Go see a movie with the girls. Do a burnout in front of a bunch of ricers. Gap your spark plugs. Anything that keeps you occupied will keep your mind off your problems.
Thunderchicken thanks for the advice.
1. we realy don't talk on the phone all we do is talk online, and when he had a job when we first started dating he would talk non stop now i can not get him to talk more than 20 min. He pretty much talks to me and that is about it besides looking at these boards. so not much. i am doing more than him and i always find time to talk to him. and i always start the convercation. and always start the shag.
2. Well of course i am a female but my little brother is 7 and he just wants attention after my father died he realy doesn't have anyone that will look and sit down and teach him the right ways. i try but tham everyone reverses them. and my sister is a more deep rooted problem and like you said there are always problems but there is something different because i am not doing anything else for my sister because she has gotten away with everything under the sun blamed everything on me and torn the family apart. i give to my mom money when she needed it and other thing but she has not. not gas money not paying for dinner somenights nothing. i guess it bothers me because i see her getting away with all this and i am the only one standing up to her not her boyfriend not my mom not my mom's best friend who has done just as much as my mom has for her. she even threatoned to call the cops on her. i guess my family is just ****ed up and i can't deal with it.
well my nature it to get away from it but i have no car at the moment, and no way to get away. and me trying to do something to relax i can't i do art but i have to be left alone inorder to do it and i can't be with 2 dogs a little brother and a bitchy sister and a mom looking to bitch at someone. i try and read can't do that for the same reasons. all my girlfriends left when i graduated high school. and with no job no income can't realy do something that is going to cost me espically with me in college now need the money for books and supplies. i normaly bike to get my mind of things becauase when i am out in the open i can talk to myself and work out my problems but with all this snow i can't do that let alone go outside with out my finger freezing. i would love to get a job writing advice colums for people with problems because i am good at that but i don't look at my own life until i blow up. guess i need to find a job writing advice columns or a webpage that people can go to and ask for advice.
Thank you Thunderchicken
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 20, 2005, 11:09:21 PM
whatever i do someone is always looking over my shoulder or wanting me to do something so it is not like i can get away from it. to many people in the house so my bed is out in the middle of the room so i can't even go to my room to be alone
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 20, 2005, 11:25:38 PM
and a way for me to relax is sleep sleep it all away and not have to deal with it all but than i get bitched at for sleeping to much.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 12:19:04 AM
you need to just bundle up in some clothes and take a walk, my only real release right now is dance games, and my car, and both get me out of the house
just take a walk, come in late when everyone is in bed, and enjoy the peace
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: TrickFlow347 on January 21, 2005, 04:22:44 PM
Quote from: Thunder Chicken
Lostbrew, some words of advice:
1) Guys are not talkative by nature. I do not know any guy who likes to talk on the phone, instant message, or whatever. This is not an indication that your guy does not care about you, it is an indication of the very tiny attention span that comes from being a male. Your guy is very likely surfing a dozen different websites while chatting with you.
2) Brothers and sisters are not allowed to get along. By law. They tolerate each other, borrow money from each other, do each other favours, and all that, but only because their parents make them like each other. The younger they are, the more this holds true. My sister and I are both in our thirties, and on the surface we get along, but underneath we both carry a deep grudge against each other that is programmed into siblings. Don't let it bother you.
I don't know, maybe it is just my nature (or the aforementioned short attention span), but I refuse to let anything bother me. The sun will still set at the end of the day, and the following morning it will rise again, sure as there's shiznit in a cat. If you find yourself buckling under stress, do something you enjoy. Go see a movie with the girls. Do a burnout in front of a bunch of ricers. Gap your spark plugs. Anything that keeps you occupied will keep your mind off your problems.
WOW! :)
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 05:35:59 PM
Quote from: Tbird232ci
you need to just bundle up in some clothes and take a walk, my only real release right now is dance games, and my car, and both get me out of the house
just take a walk, come in late when everyone is in bed, and enjoy the peace
i can't realy just bundle up cus' if i was to go for a walk i would go and keep going untill i get so frost bit that i can't move. and i realy don't have the supplies to bundle up. i try and relax when everyone is sleepin' but my mom has my brother turn off the internet to my computer at 11:30 and with school and all i try and go to bed early and i try to sleep and do what i can't. i seem better after i sleep and no one brings it back up it is like my memory eraser. another reason why i try to sleep a lot when i am nervious.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 05:57:58 PM
look, this shiznit irritates me, you ask for advice, then say how it wont work, or how youre different, or how bad life is, i broke up with a girl over stupid shiznit like that, if youre going to ask for advice, and shoot everythign down, dont bother asking, because you know you wont listen
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Cougar8775 on January 21, 2005, 06:08:46 PM
hey there is no need to attack her here she was just pointing out what goes on at her place. and how she comes here to relax. and i value it when she is here. but there is no reason to go on the attack.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 06:12:14 PM
isnt that cute?
look, its one thing to rant about what goes on, i do it, you do it, we all do it, but when you ask advice, someone gives you advice, and all you do is give excuses and ramble on about how youre life is so horrible and advice wont work....why bother asking? why even bring it to the board if all you do is give excuses when someone gives input
i like having her here, i like having people here, but i get irritated when someone wont listen
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Cougar8775 on January 21, 2005, 06:28:12 PM
yeah but there is no reason to piss whine or whatever over it. but she gets that way when she is frustrated pissed or whatever. cuz im the same way. and when she is pissed i get that way cuz she is and when i try to calm her down or calm my self down we butt heads. guess thats the gemini trait poping up yet again. o well. shiznit happens.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 06:47:32 PM
Quote from: Tbird232ci
look, this shiznit irritates me, you ask for advice, then say how it wont work, or how youre different, or how bad life is, i broke up with a girl over stupid shiznit like that, if youre going to ask for advice, and shoot everythign down, dont bother asking, because you know you wont listen
it irritates me when people like you say shiznit like this i deal with it every time i say something on this board if you don't like the thread don't post on it, it is as simple as that. i am not shotting everything down i am taking it into concideration and not everyone on this board is fortunate enough to have shiznit to get away to and relax. i have to ****ing listaned and like i said before if you don't like the thread don't post on it.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: baxo on January 21, 2005, 06:51:56 PM
ok lady and gents.. take deep breaths.. sing spoogebaya ... say "whoooosaaahh" and think "is arguing on this thread really worth it.. am i really doing something productive and useful to society by running my mouth off here?"
Then ride a unicorn to your happy place..
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 06:53:24 PM
bla bla bla bla bla
you rant on saying if i dont like the thread, dont post and yadda yadda, but if you dont like the advice, why give 50 excuses why it wont work?
like before, you put something in a public forum, dont expect everyone to hold hands and rejoice over everything you post, there will be some opposition, there will be an asshole such as myself who will call you on things, and there weill be some problems, it the interent, its public, expect it
if you deal with it every time you post, maybe thing about the things you post
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 06:54:17 PM
Quote from: Tbird232ci
isnt that cute?
look, its one thing to rant about what goes on, i do it, you do it, we all do it, but when you ask advice, someone gives you advice, and all you do is give excuses and ramble on about how youre life is so horrible and advice wont work....why bother asking? why even bring it to the board if all you do is give excuses when someone gives input
i like having her here, i like having people here, but i get irritated when someone wont listen
if you think it is excuses than you are calling my life an excuse. if you were in my life you would do that same shiznit. i bother asking is because i needed the help not the shiznit i got from you. i bring it to the boards because i am part of this community as are you and i know there are people here that will give me the advice i seek and not be an ass about it. like i stated in the begining if you think they are excuses than you are calling my life an excuse.
you feel irritated when someone wont listean than why won't you. i listean and that is why i have lived this long and gotten through all the break ups i have had and all the other things that i have gone through at this age. and so sorry i am irritating you but i asked for advice not shiznit.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 06:59:17 PM
i gave you advice, and all you gave me was BS, you think my life is a piece of cake? i live with an asshole of a dad, i have an alcoholic for a mother, i have health issues and no insurance, i have a broken down car and another car i cant drive, i have bills that i need to pay with no income, do i sit here and make excuses? do i bring it to the board? no
like i said, i gave you advice, Thunder Chicken gave you advice, and all we get back is "my life sucks", and if your life is an excuse, im sorry, not my problem
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Cougar8775 on January 21, 2005, 07:02:01 PM
yeah he did but also he didn't go on the attack unlike u have u made your point now leave it be!
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: baxo on January 21, 2005, 07:03:13 PM
Everyone can find their happy place if they can just listen to the little leprechaun inside them.
Seriously. Nobody's life sucks, they just think it does. If you think your life sucks, try being one of those african kids dying of hunger, just for one day. then you'll realise a BF who hardly talks to you or siblings that annoy you is like being in heaven..
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 07:07:43 PM
Quote from: Cougar8775
yeah he did but also he didn't go on the attack unlike u have u made your point now leave it be!
if you think thats an attack...heh
i basically said "if you ask for advice, dont give excuses to why it doesnt work", she blows up, gets all mad, yes, i get irritated with it very fast, because every person i give advice to comes back saying "thanks", and i know for a fact how things would work, and someone says "it wont work because..." without trying
its like if you told her over the phone that you bought her a shirt, and she says "ewwww i dont like it", jumping to conclusions and making assumptions
im through with this thread, im fed up with this kind of BS, ive cut all ties with girls for this very reason, and it appears that ill do the same on this board
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 07:12:56 PM
Quote from: Tbird232ci
i gave you advice, and all you gave me was BS, you think my life is a piece of cake? i live with an asshole of a dad, i have an alcoholic for a mother, i have health issues and no insurance, i have a broken down car and another car i cant drive, i have bills that i need to pay with no income, do i sit here and make excuses? do i bring it to the board? no
like i said, i gave you advice, Thunder Chicken gave you advice, and all we get back is "my life sucks", and if your life is an excuse, im sorry, not my problem
i did not give you Bs i give you what i give b-holes the things i don't have. i have no father he died 2 years ago. my mother works and goes to school hardly ever realy see her. i have no incurance no car i have no income with health bills to pay i do not sit here and make excuses i bring u into my life and tell you what i have and wait for you to change what you said on how it would work for me. and i thanked thunderchicken and with what you said my life is excuses and i don't think my life is an excuse.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 07:23:39 PM
well, like i said, im done with the thread, if you type something to me, dont expect me to have anything to say, peace
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 07:25:46 PM
i never did
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Bird351 on January 21, 2005, 07:28:26 PM
IBTL! :banana:
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: baxo on January 21, 2005, 07:29:07 PM
so.. can we hold hands now? *cries* cant we all just get along?
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Haystack on January 21, 2005, 07:33:36 PM
if I can hold yours your a dude right?
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: baxo on January 21, 2005, 07:39:14 PM
*looks down*.. yep.. and what a dude!
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Bird351 on January 21, 2005, 07:41:30 PM
And modest, too! :p
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: baxo on January 21, 2005, 07:44:14 PM
what? i was referring to the spurs attached to my boots and my big manly belt...
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Cougar8775 on January 21, 2005, 07:49:09 PM
man baxo u know how to lighten a mood up quickly :grinno:
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: TrickFlow347 on January 21, 2005, 09:12:59 PM
QUOTE* ive cut all ties with girls for this very reason, and it appears that ill do the same on this board
Now you didnt mean that!
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: nirvanagod on January 21, 2005, 09:14:52 PM
Time to lock this one. Mods?
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Bird351 on January 21, 2005, 09:17:01 PM
I reiterate: IBTL! :p
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: montecitan on January 21, 2005, 09:32:09 PM
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL
AND TO ALL A GOOD NIGHT
PSST i'm not a troll, just chiming in on this thread... b4tl :)
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 09:34:00 PM
Quote from: TrickFlow347
QUOTE* ive cut all ties with girls for this very reason, and it appears that ill do the same on this board
Now you didnt mean that!
i mean with lostbrew, not everyone else
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Cougar8775 on January 21, 2005, 09:48:17 PM
just cuz she was explaning what happened in her life and all that he decided to be a prick and go rant and rave hell he eben pushed me close to the edge. i can tollerate assholes for only sooo long
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Bird351 on January 21, 2005, 09:56:48 PM
Enough already.
Lock please.
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Tbird232ci on January 21, 2005, 09:58:58 PM
Quote from: Cougar8775
just cuz she was explaning what happened in her life and all that he decided to be a prick and go rant and rave hell he eben pushed me close to the edge. i can tollerate assholes for only sooo long
dude...no one asked anything in this thread after what was said, it just seems you want it to drag on, im going to make a PM or 2, have this thread locked, and call it quits
and as for for you comment about me being an asshole and tolorating me...i can easily take that as a threat, so watch what you say or matters could get worse
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 10:11:16 PM
Quote from: Tbird232ci
dude...no one asked anything in this thread after what was said, it just seems you want it to drag on, im going to make a PM or 2, have this thread locked, and call it quits
and as for for you comment about me being an asshole and tolorating me...i can easily take that as a threat, so watch what you say or matters could get worse
and i can take what you said as harrasment and a threat also so go for it and push those buttons, because i can push right back
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: lostbrew on January 21, 2005, 10:12:17 PM
you were the one draging it on and you won't leave it alone, i thought you said you were going to post on this thread anymore. i see that was a lie
Title: Re: Advice
Post by: Thunder Chicken on January 21, 2005, 10:13:37 PM
Right. This one's done. I should've known any thread that goes four pages around here needed a lock...
Note to others: If you see a thread that needs locking, PM me or Eric. I don't read all the threads, and I'm sure Eric doesn't either, so if you see something getting out of hand and think it should be shut down you only need let one of us know.